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You may be able to calm your anxiety — and actually do better — by simply talking to yourself in the third person, a new study suggests. Research actually suggests that people who ask more questions are better liked by their conversation partners than people who ask fewer questions.
Give someone a compliment It shifts the focus to the other peraon and should make them feel good, Sandstrom explains. You get better at asking better questions, and answering with more interesting responses.
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So he and some colleagues ran a couple of experiments. In fact, a mme experiment will look at whether it will help people who are afraid of dogs or spiders. Focusing the attention on the other person in those moments can help us get past those awkward spots, she says. In another run, the volunteers looked at the same photos, but this time they were told to talk about their feelings in the third person.
Researchers found that people create distance between themselves and whatever is causing negative emotions, like fear or anxietywhen they self-talk in the third person. Be curious Ask questions.
March 1, In a second experiment, 50 volunteers had their brains scanned as they remembered painful experiences in their past. Our fear assumptions fail to take into the social norms of politeness, Schroeder says. As the volunteers watched and spoke, their brain waves were measured with an electroencephalograph, which revealed that emotional brain activity quickly decreased when they referred to themselves in the third person. Again, they were told to either think about their feelings in the first person pdrson in the third person.
One time they asked the volunteers to describe in the first person, that is, using "I," what they were feeling as they were looked at pictures ranging from a man pointing a gun at them to ones showing badly injured people. Research shows the opposite, however, that people nearly always are willing to engage in a conversation when prompted by someone else. In one, they asked 29 volunteers to look at a set of disturbing and frightening photos two times.
The scans showed that when people talked to themselves in the third person, there was less activity in a brain region that is involved in processing painful emotional events.
A question can either kick off a conversation or keep it going, Sandstrom says. Can you have both anxiety and depression?
The new study underscores the power of the language we use to tap into areas of the brain, said Cecile Ladouceur, an associate professor of psychiatry and psychology at the University of Pittsburgh. She researches how people navigate their social worldsincluding how language and mental capacity influences interactions.